Dating in the Art & Style 
of a Gentleman

What it is that women want is to date a masculine gentleman who is a charming, well-rounded, decisive, adventurous, self-reliant leader with an excellent social presence. They want a protector willing to commit to them to the exclusion of other women. Someone assertive without being aggressive. They are looking for someone physically compatible and emotionally vulnerable who can provide them with a good home with enough wealth to satisfy their needs.

They want to date a gentleman who displays qualities of respect, courtesy, and kindness toward others. A gentleman respectfully treats women as equals by valuing their opinions, feelings, and needs. He expresses courtesy by showing consideration and thoughtfulness toward others. He uses compassion, empathy, and understanding to help her overcome challenging times.

Investment

They want you to invest in the relationship. They don’t want someone who will be in and out of their lives, constantly ghosting them and then wanting back in. They want to be treated equally in the relationship without being put on a pedestal. They want a gentleman who provides excitement in their lives. Someone who can help make the hard decisions—an intelligent gentleman who can make them laugh. 

Strength and Stability

Women are looking for gentlemen who can face life’s challenges head-on. An honest, open, dependable, and reliable gentleman. They are looking for mental, emotional, and employment stability. She needs you to be goal-oriented and compatible with her goals. She wants you to be reliable. She is looking for you to have integrity and a strong character that can handle the challenges she puts forth to him.

Openness and Trustworthiness

Openness is fundamental to women in dating relationships. You have to be willing to be there when she needs you. The quality of trustworthiness is required as she wants you to be reliable. You must be transparent, honest, trustworthy, reliable, and dependable with her to build trust. Women want someone with a solid moral compass who will make the right decisions when pressed. Women are seeking someone who can commit to them and their relationship. She needs someone who can support her growth and well-being by building her up.

Balancing Masculinity and Femininity

You need to be masculine and be able to lead her when she wants to be led. Your healthy masculinity is there to complement her femininity. You need to provide her with protective and respectful masculinity. You need to be equal to her. You don’t need any date; you need an equal who wants to date you. Women want you to show empathy towards others and themselves when they need it.

You should be strong enough with her to call out her destructive behaviors when appropriate. Women want a man who challenges them. Not someone she can walk all over. Women want a challenge and not a rollover puppy.

Personal Growth and Purpose

A woman wants a man who demonstrates a growth attitude. Women like men progressing in their personal and work lives, and he is willing to share those with her. They want you to be responsible for your actions and reactions. Remember, though, that when a problem happens that you have no control over, you are only responsible for your response to the problem. Only you are responsible for your actions and reactions.

A strong woman won’t be looking to change you. You are not her responsibility. She is not looking for a fixer-upper man to date. She is looking at you to change yourself if you have a weak attribute. She wants someone who can care for himself first so that he is strong enough to care for her.

Alive and Present

Women want a gentleman who makes them feel alive and feminine when he is around them. She wants to feel something other than boredom on a date; she wants to feel playful. She wants a relationship that makes her feel good. They are looking for a gentleman willing to stand for something—someone with a true purpose in life with goals other than just surviving daily.

She wants you to be living in the present with her. She does not want you to live in your past. She knows you have a history, and while she will be curious about your past, she does not want to learn about your past emotional baggage. She wants to create something together — a shared future with someone who is a gentleman with her. 

Social Life

She is looking for someone with a social life that lets her see you as a strong social leader. Someone who can throw parties and knows how to mingle and keep his guests circulating.  She wants to know you have a good family relationship, even if that means it is not with your real family. A positive family relationship shows you can be civil and commit to a longer-term relationship.

Action

To paraphrase Winston Churchill, she wants a gentleman who makes things happen. And if things don’t happen, she likes it when he makes things happen.

Summary

Women want to date mature and responsible men, not boys. They will prefer to date gentlemen if they are available. Gentlemen are a rare commodity in the dating world, and their scarcity creates value and demand. 

Make her earn a place in your life. You have choices in whom you date, just like she does.

There is no time like the present to begin being a gentleman who dates.